Wow! A whole year has passed and I can hardly believe it. I guess we’re busy and/or having a lot of fun. Last year I wrote about our marriage being a marathon not a sprint and I guess we’re still having that runner’s/marriage high but we still run into those unexpected hills along the course.
Last weekend, we had some friends visit. We had a blast until the hubby got a little cranky from not hydrating properly (happens to all of us). It was no big deal, people have little tiffs but I really wasn’t happy that it happened while we were having guests. So, I decided to give him some space and I took our friends into town and showed them around. Our marriage isn’t perfect but sometimes I want it to look like it is.
As we were in town, we talking about relationships. I explained how ours works and why we stay together (or at least from my perspective). In our marriage, the hubby and I play different roles. We have strengths and weaknesses and luckily his strengths compliment my weaknesses and vice versa.
For instance, I love to shop or spend money. It’s not something I’m proud of but it’s who I am and I just can’t resist a new pair of shoes. On the other hand, the hubby is great at saving money therefore, he’s the CFO of our marriage. He manages our savings and makes sure that we don’t end up like the old woman in the shoe. On the flip side, the hubby isn’t great at socializing with new people, so I take the lead and make sure we have fun with our friends. I’m the Entertainment Director/ Communication Manager.
We’ve traded/shared roles as well. When we first got married, I was the animal caretaker. I got up with the dogs, fed them, let the out, walked them, took them to the vet, etc. When we got our recent dogs, they migrated to him in the mornings. I still do some of the care taking but the hubby is the main provider this time.
At the end of the day though, we’re Co- CEO’s. We’re in this marriage together, we vowed to be there for each other no matter what. Someone told me once that the key to marriage is at any given time one of you might want out but that you both don’t want out at the same time – there’s always someone who wants to make it work. I’m not sure if that’s true but I think there’s been times in our marriage where one of us wanted out and the other didn’t. We keep going knowing we have the same goals and we are better/stronger together. Marriage is work, it’s not easy. Eleven years…here’s to many more together.